I’ve been casually texting back and forth with some dude from the internet. We haven’t met in person yet, and this is very new. Tonight I see a message from him that says:
“Are you affectionate?”
My reply: “Gonna have to be more specific.”
Him: “If we were together and I couldn’t keep my hands and lips off you, would that be a problem for you? Would you feel the need to reciprocate?”
There were 100 different ways I wanted to reply in a way that would be the equivalent of “you’re an idiot” or “go fuck yourself”. But I couldn’t even bring myself to reply. I’m just too over it.
Unfortunately, this is not an uncommon question for guys to ask (please don’t ever ask a woman that). So here are my words of wisdom to the menfolk.
Any woman can and will be “affectionate”. But not if you work her nerves before you’ve even met in person. Not if you’re going to kill a good conversation by trying to start a stupid sex talk through text.
I’m sure he’ll write me off as a “bitch” or a “prude” like all the internet morons do when I don’t entertain their nonsense. Little do they know the kind of “porn star” sex that they could have had if they had just put on some patient pants and done some proper courting first.
Women are different than men when it comes to sex. This is not fresh information. I feel like the topic has been beaten to death. Yet, clearly many aren’t grasping it.
If you want an “affectionate” woman and the benefits (good sex) that accompany that…then you’re gonna have to put in some work. You know, treat her like a person first and all of that.
Otherwise, it’s going to continue to be a lot of rejection and mediocre one night stands for you.