The story of my life. Had been texting a bit with someone new for about a day. He’s decent looking. Seems nice. Easy enough to talk to.
We’re a whopping 30 messages in overall when it starts.
“Send me a picture of your feet”.
I made it clear that I wasn’t going to do that. He told me that it was a simple request and that we should start learning to please each other now. I blocked him.
Every.flipping.time.
Where are the boundaries?!? I talk to a LOT of guys. And usually, it ends after about 10 messages because at that point they are already starting to make demands.
“Send me more pics”, “let’s facetime”, “drop everything and meet me at a bar right now”. Or God forbid I go and pee without my phone. I always come back to the “did I scare you off?” I swear nothing turns me off faster than that last one.
Whatever happened to conversations? Getting to know somebody? Taking a minute to pursue them if you’re sincerely interested?
Am I expecting too much? Am I just a bitch? Did all the negative porn experiences make me too sensitive?
I have no idea. And frankly, I’m not sure I care.
I’m at the point where I would rather die alone than put up with any of these weenies on a regular basis anyway.
My Granny has been single by choice for over 30 years now. I used to think it was odd.
Now…I think it’s brilliant.
May 31, 2017 at 2:14 am
LOLd hard at the guy’s request. You mention boundaries in your post…the lack thereof. You also mention the lack of conversations and getting to know someone. One could argue that the feet guy was doing exactly that, getting a feeler for the type of person you were, in the sexting sense anyway. Now, he could very well be a demanding asshole that doesn’t get why a woman wouldn’t want that request from a guy 30 texts into their conversation…but he could also be a well meaning person that is awkward when trying to flirt via text.
I know you have mentioned in the past how your porn experiences were devoid of emotion on your part, but to answer your question: yes, your negative porn experiences probably have made you more sensitive to a guy your into asking for sexual pics. Not “mean”. Jaded…perhaps.
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June 15, 2019 at 1:10 am
Don, i think that you can’t justified the feet guy. Thats not normal. I have friends and they never were told to send pics of their feet. Of course asshole is a lot worse, but feet is not normal at all. Besides if you dont know the person dont go into “flirting”. you have to be more polite.
Sexual pics are for maybe boyfriends. But if you think that is ok to go around and ask strangers tho show their bodies you are here to in the future trying to get her pics
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